Lately, God seems to be showing me –through different sources– that it’s okay not to go to church. Before you get all offended and think I’m leaving the faith, hear me out…
I’ve had issues with “church” (or, as some prefer to call it, ‘organized religion’) for many, many years. I have encountered way too much hypocrisy & legalism, and have never felt comfortable going to church every Sunday morning. I was practically forced to go to youth group as a teen, and then had issues at 2 of the 3 different churches I’ve attended in the last 20 years… issues that couldn’t just be overlooked, and so I left. My current church is definitely better than the other two were, but it still makes me uncomfortable, to an extent.
Just recently, while browsing in a bookstore, I came across a book called “Pagan Christianity” by George Barna & Frank Viola. I didn’t buy it, but just picked it up and skimmed through it. And, it piqued my curiosity. Here’s the description (from Amazon):
Have you ever wondered why we Christians do what we do for church every Sunday morning? Why do we “dress up” for church? Why does the pastor preach a sermon each week? Why do we have pews, steeples, choirs, and seminaries? This volume reveals the startling truth: most of what Christians do in present-day churches is not rooted in the New Testament, but in pagan culture and rituals developed long after the death of the apostles. Coauthors Frank Viola and George Barna support their thesis with compelling historical evidence in the first-ever book to document the full story of modern Christian church practices.
The book has gotten me intrigued, and I fully intend to read it as soon as I get a chance (probably late November, or December of this year).
Then I picked up a book from the local library that I originally had no intention of reading: “The Year of Living Biblically” by A. J. Jacobs. An online friend reviewed it, and that review prompted me to give the book a try, and see what I thought. Well, I thought it was a fantastic book, and it got me thinking even more! What really got me, though, was the revelation I took away from that: Nowhere in the Bible does it say we have to attend church (in a building) every week!
People have always loved to quote me Hebrews 10:25, saying this was the mandate that we are to never stop going to church. Well, guess what? This verse does NOT say you have to “go to church”… it just says you aren’t to neglect meeting with other believers…
“Let us not give up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but let us encourage one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching.” ~ Hebrews 10:25, NIV
“Not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as the manner of some is; but exhorting one another: and so much the more, as ye see the day approaching.” ~ Hebrews 10:25, KJV
“And let us not neglect our meeting together, as some people do, but encourage one another, especially now that the day of his return is drawing near.” ~ Hebrews 10:25, NLT
See? Even in the King James Version (which is thought to be one of the most reliable — closest to what was originally written), it says not to neglect meeting together with other believers. But it does NOT say you have to meet in a church building.
Then, while online the other day, I came across yet another book: “So You Don’t Want to Go To Church Any More?” by Wayne Jacobsen. And, by Googling the author, I came across his website, LifeStream.org, where you can read a multitude of articles on why he no longer is a fan of “organized religion”, and about how he believes “church” means something different than what we have always believed it to be…
Mr. Jacobsen says “Church is not somewhere you go; it’s something that you are“. We, the followers of Christ, are His ‘church’, His bride. Wherever we are to be found, that’s where “church” exists.
And I really like this concept!
I’ve been reading some of the articles on this LifeStream website, and apparently this is a growing trend… people are leaving the church building — the Sunday morning gatherings — and they are seeking out other believers that they can learn from and grow with, believers who share their same belief that you can’t limit God to man-made traditions.
Personally, when I realized that the Bible doesn’t even say you have to “go to church”, but only that you have to continue meeting with other believers, I was so relieved! No longer do I have to give in to the guilt that’s heaped upon me when people ask me if I’m going to church regularly, and I have to say ‘no’. No longer do I have to accept the shame they try to instill in me for not going. Instead, I can relax, knowing that I make my weekly Bible study meetings a priority, and am thereby obeying the Biblical command to continue meeting together with other believers.
I’ve purchased a copy of “So You Don’t Want to Go to Church Any More?“, so stay tuned, as I’ll be posting my thoughts on what the book has to say!




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October 13, 2009 at 3:13 pm
rksouliske
Read those books and they are great! — Also check out Martin Zenders books as well -
How to quit Church without Quitting God -
http://www.martinzender.com/books_etc.htm
October 13, 2009 at 3:17 pm
mizb17
Thanks so much!
October 13, 2009 at 3:23 pm
SimpleChurch.tv
Your not alone. This movement is growing as Christians are transitioning from “going to church to being the Church”. It’s very liberating and practical.
Follow your heart in the matter. The possibilities are endless.
The Church is not where we go, but who we are
October 13, 2009 at 3:51 pm
Jill
I appreciate your thoughtful post, and can definitely identify with what the Lord is showing you. After being in the organized church since childhood, I left about five years ago to begin meeting around Christ in a face-to-face community of believers (also known as “organic church”). I’ve read “Pagan Christianity” and highly recommend it. When you finish it, you might want to follow up with the sequel, “Reimagining Church”. It’s the constructive part of the discussion. Viola also has a new book that’s the practical follow-up to both books. It’s called “Finding Organic Church.” Also, an awesome article by Viola is “Why I Love the Church”, which explains the motivation behind all three books. http://frankviola.wordpress.com/2009/08/18/why-i-love-the-church-in-praise-of-gods-eternal-purpose/
Blessings to you on your journey, brother!
November 27, 2011 at 10:19 pm
Jim Colley
It wil be interesting to see if this is really what you believe or just a “cop out” of faithfulness and doing what the Bible says to do….it will be interesting to see how many people walk down the aisle and receive Christ like I did and it changed my life forever…probably would have never happened in “your home.” Be interesting to see if “giving” has anything to do with it….Nice not to have to see the offering plate go by….use “my money” how “I” want….be interesting to see how many missionaries you support…as it is commanded we do….too bad you don’t want to sit and hear God’s Word preached because that where major decisions take place…maybe you had a bad experience but “don’t throw the baby out with the bath water.”…don’t use this as a “cop out.”…I could go on and on…..stay in church…find a good one that’s not legalistic like the one I go to. What a JOY to go each week!!
ps. God neber seals in shame….people do….God only deals with facts about how we should live…if not willing to obey, then shame comes….it’s called conviction.
November 27, 2011 at 10:23 pm
Jim Colley
Excuse me…typing too fast…the last line should read, “God never deals in shame.”